By Brigid Hopkins HEART ALCHEMY

Calling Bullsh*t On The Mask I Use To Hide My Insecurity Of Not Being Good Enough

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BY BRIGID HOPKINS 

Releasing Expectations: The Art Of Receptivity

As the summer days shorten, and the cool breezes increase, just as the trees will soon shed their leaves, I too am letting go.

I am consistently surprised and in wonder of this process. I once had the expectation that when I let go of something, that was it, finito! However, for me, letting go is a continual process that works its way deeper, spiralling into the root of the matter.

Some things are easy for me to release. I can clear out a closet, rewrite beliefs, let go of habits. These, I find, do not challenge me or push me as hard to look inward.

Other circumstances, however, are much deeper. I have patterns within my family dynamic that shape-shift and take on different masks.

One, that has been a constant, is my trusting in the “what-is” of a moment, without expectation, or a need to control the situation, even the outcome. This has been a repetitive practice of letting go, one layer at a time. The easier ones first, then deeper and deeper.

Since the new moon, I have been tearful and tender. I hit a root, the root of expectations.

How heavy and unsatisfying they really are to have in my life. They do not foster joy, service, or ease. They push, nudge, and agitate most situations, taking away any chance for flow, surprise, and realness. I have worked for years around expectations. I can clearly see how much they interfere with my relationships.

When I got real honest with myself, I learned that expectations are a front for my shadow belief of not being good enough.

Here’s how it plays out…

If I have an expectation of things going a certain way, and it slowly begins to unravel because of how I am perceiving the situation, and it not “meeting” my expectation, I begin to blame others.

It’s their fault this isn’t fun. It’s their fault we are late. It’s their fault I am unsatisfied.

Bullshit.

I created the mask in order to hide my insecurity of not being good enough. I blame the expectation and not my shadowy beliefs.

Here’s the best part: Now that I have gotten into the messy root system of these tangled and gnarly shadow beliefs, I can choose something different for myself.

I can integrate my shadow, and change the belief.

This process, while uncomfortable, is what being whole is about. It is acceptance of all parts of one’s being, the shadow and the light.

If I continue to hide my shadow in the expectation, I will continue to have unsatisfying experiences because I believe it’s the best I deserve.

It’s not the best I deserve. It’s what I’ve put up with because of this shadow. By bringing it into the light, my light, I am showing the shadow and myself that we are worthy of receiving everything I desire in a satisfying life!

I am working on more surrender, less expectation, to trust in the uncontrollable, unexpected mystery of life.

The other side of letting go is receiving. Receiving isn’t always about what is easy, light or feels good.

Receiving is about the art of receptivity to all circumstances, just as they are.

Some are more bitter and insipid than others, and if I can be with it, not reject it, judge it, or deny it. I am opening myself to an entirely new frequency in life.

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Brigid Hopkins

Brigid is a Clarity Coach she works with clients who are ready to radically embrace their stumbling blocks to become more acquainted with the landscape of their inner lives. She knows how hard it can be to do the inner work, slay the dragons and face the scary uncertainty of change. She has implemented her surefire strategies for success in helping herself to come through her own stumbling blocks of living with panic disorder. With her talents of women's empowerment, mediumship, Master Reiki Teacher, Shadow doula and Toltec mastery. She also finds time for her self-care practices and passionate portals of expression. Brigid has authored and published her first memoir; Feathers of a Phoenix released July, 2018. When she is not working with clients, spending time with family or friends. You may find her penning away at a local coffeehouse, exploring the shores of Lake Erie, or rubbing behind the ears of any furry creature she may happen to encounter.

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