By Aliza Gerritt
“For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. The shell cracks, its insides come out and everything changes. To someone who doesn’t understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.”
First, congratulations! You are not a robot! We live in a high speed digital world where technology rules, and we often forget we are human beings.
Our feelings appear as an inconvenience to our routine programming. However, our innate wisdom interrupts our mindlessly scheduled, monotonous, routine programming to help us remember; we are not machines.
Take a moment and recognise that you feel. Granted this particular feeling may not be one of your favourite experiences, but it is necessary at this juncture.
Feeling reminds us that we are very much alive: growing, changing, shifting and evolving.
Now, do something about it.
Bitching is a verb but it isn’t really an action, it’s a reaction. Einstein defined, “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
We have been given the gift of discernment — the ability to see and understand people, things, or situations clearly and intelligently, in order to act accordingly.
Recognising we feel less than ideal is the first step to doing something about it.
“But, what do we do?!”
What is not important. Do is. Taking action to shift a pattern of negative thoughts, experiences, emotions, and associations is not always easy. But it has to be done. Otherwise, we are back to square one and we feel like shit. That is not the goal.
So, we do. Something, anything, different than that which we have done repeatedly and unsuccessfully.
Meanwhile, quit judging yourself and stop getting lost in your head for being mortal.
One more time: you are not a robot. Honour how you feel.
We have been taught to hide our emotions and expected to overcome trauma effortlessly, which is unrealistic to say the least. We have to feel to heal.
Feeling anything less than awesome isn’t fun. Neither is harbouring resentment and suffering needlessly for a lifetime.
Accept that you are human. Honour what you feel, and move on, but not to get over it; have your moment and progress by taking action. Evolve.
“And on that day, it wasn’t the last time I would emerge from a deep dark hole, but I learned; sometimes, our magic swallows us whole.”
For more self-study, The Urban Howl recommends Tears to Triumph: The Spiritual Journey from Suffering to Enlightenment.