All you are feeling is completely normal, and I was standing right there with you, legs closed tightly and lost in milk-soaked motherhood, eight years ago. Thank you for sharing a problem affecting so many new parents.
Woundmates are not to be confused with soulmates, which can also trigger shadowy material to the surface of consciousness, but are sourced in a more promising and fertile wellspring, one that fosters real growth and progress.
Without any effort at containment, I hurtled over the back-jacks and pounced on top of her. In a soulbeat, we were undressed and writhing madly on the temple floor. The Buddha was aghast, as we attached, desired and clung our way to God.